During summer vacation, classics teacher is recommended, the book —— that read this psychological aspect " the route that rare person takes " . The author of the book is American writer M· · clique overcomes Scot, a crackajack psychological doctor. Read finish, if do not keep a sense after reading for it,becoming aware, itch always is in the heart, resembling was what to owe like.
暑假期间，经老师推荐，阅读了这本心理学方面的书——《少有人走的路》。书的作者是美国作家M·斯科特·派克，一名杰出的心理医生。读毕，便觉着要是不为它写一篇读后感，心里总是痒痒的，像是欠了什么似的。
Whole book cent is “ self-discipline, love, grow with ” of devotional, favor 4 parts. Among them my impression is the deepest is the ” of “ antiquated map in the first part. This one chapter basically wrote technician of computer of a male, more than 30 years old, because the wife is bringing two children,leave and appeal to the author. The man is honest: Lose a wife to did not make him painful, but lose the child to let him cannot be accepted however. In his heart, the child's meaning is more than a wife far. The author is mentioned in the book, the Ceng Yin when he reads is fight, the accusation tierce put in prison such as affray, he however not care a nut: Those Mr. “ teachers are dissembler, with distinction of constabulary that's all right. ” his mind is quick, change again and again however the job, he always says: “ you incredibly anybody. ” the anxiety of this man is interior map when passing.
全书分为“自律、爱、成长与信仰、恩典”四个部分。其中我印象最深刻的是第一部分中的“过时的地图”。这一章主要写了一个男性电脑技术员，三十多岁，因妻子带着两个孩子离去而向作者求助。男子坦白：失去妻子并未让他痛苦，但失去孩子却让他无法接受。在他的心里，孩子的意义远远大于妻子。作者在书中提到，他读书时曾因为打架、斗殴等罪名三度入狱，他却毫不在意：“那些老师都是伪君子，和警察没什么区别。”他头脑灵活，却频频更换工作，他总说：“你不能相信任何人。”这个男子的心病就是心灵地图过了时。
Original, his parents is when he is very small, always violate the commitment to him, forgot his birthday even, do not think to have many however serious. Parental indifference, the childhood that lets him is full of a shadow, begin those who allow to think parents is suspect. Then, all germ begins from here. “ does not believe anybody ” , this is his interior map. Although the wife is tender virtuous, but each nerve that in that way heart map is full of him from beginning to end, he does not wish to open one's mind, trust again other, because he is cowardly with edit oneself interior map, fear to be harmed again.
原来，他的父母在他很小的时候，总是违背对他的承诺，甚至忘了他生日，却不认为有多严重。父母的漠不关心，让他的童年充满阴影，开始认为父母是不可信任的。于是，一切的根源便从这里开始。“不相信任何人”，这是他的心灵地图。即使妻子温柔贤惠，可那样的心灵地图始终充斥他的每一根神经，他不愿敞开心扉，再一次信任他人，因为他胆怯与修订自己的心灵地图，害怕再一次受到伤害。
In more than book, have beside us many such example. Map of parental antiquated heart: Should give the child best, hold in both hands be afraid of in control, contain in the mouth to be afraid of changed. Clear away satchel for the child in the evening, have a meal rely on to feed, eat dish to rely on clip, still carrying satchel on the back to send a school gate the mouth all the time in the morning. Such parental expression looks do not be at ease, actual it is to do not have courage to edit antiquated teachs interior map. Be opposite not only so of the child grow without any helps, let him become the ” of “ gigantic baby of a society instead, the meal comes dehisce, clothes will stretch one's hand, live the life like helminth, female ” of the male ” of “ Mom treasure that becomes to cannot leave father mother, “ Mom treasure. First gear of the closest composition very igneous put together art program " be out of shape write down " a girl in is a real case. Old girl of 16 years old, have a meal to rely on aunt to feed even, all the day do-nothing, faineant, the Qian Yejiao of beautiful father and mother gets of course, do not know be thankful.
不止书中，我们身边就有不少这样的例子。父母过时的心灵地图：要给孩子最好的，捧在手心里怕掉了，含在嘴里怕化了。晚上为孩子收拾书包，吃饭靠喂、吃菜靠夹，早晨还背着书包一直送到校门口。这样的父母表现看来不放心，实际是没有勇气修订过时的教育心灵地图。这样不仅对孩子的成长没有任何帮助，反而让他成为了一个社会的“巨婴”，饭来张口、衣来伸手，过着寄生虫一样的生活，成为一个离不开爸爸妈妈的“妈宝男”、“妈宝女”。最近作文一档很火的综艺节目《变形记》里的一个女孩就是一个活生生的例子。十六岁的大姑娘了，吃饭还要靠姑姑来喂，整天游手好闲，无所事事，花父母的钱也觉得理所当然，不懂得感恩。
Same, a few “ that we often say are straight male cancer ” also is this such. This kind of male is carrying feudal traditional idea, devoted to only the interior map when oneself passed. Should “ wife stay in the home to look after children well? What to want so so high salary, good job to work? ”“ woman wants what cosmetic, element Yan Cai is the most beautiful. ”“ what? Have a fever? Drink hot water more. Gastralgia? Drink hot water more. Roll a leg? It is good to drink hot water more ah! ” the interior map that these classical ana are their place belief. Although they cannot find a girlfriend, never also can seek an issue from his body, can complain present social conduct rots only, so called “ is good in doing not have their memory feminine ” . Little imagine, the antiquated heart map that these too real senses constitute, just be the real obstacle on their life road.
同样，一些我们常说的“直男癌”也是这个这样。这一类男性保持着封建的传统的观念，只忠于自己过了时的心灵地图。“女人不就应该呆在家里好好带孩子吗？要那么高的工资、那么好的工作干什么？”“女人要什么化妆品，素颜才最美。”“什么？发烧？多喝热水。胃痛？多喝热水。扭到脚了？多喝热水就好了啊！”这些经典语录便是他们所信仰的心灵地图。即使他们找不到女朋友，也从不会从自己的身上找问题，只会抱怨现在的社会风气败坏，没有他们心目中所谓的“好女人”了。殊不知，这些过实的观念组成的过时的心灵地图，才是他们人生道路上真正的绊脚石。
So, how should be we done?
那么，我们应该怎么做呢？
Above all, face up to oneself, devoted to fact. The anguish of escapism is human nature, want to edit oneself interior map, be about to courage faces the future that is full of infinite possibility. Learn self-discipline! Pass self-discipline only, complete dungeon controls him firmly, ability overcomes actual anguish, generation edits the courage of interior map, grow stage by stage.
首先，正视自己，忠于事实。逃避现实的痛苦是人类的天性，要想修订自己的心灵地图，就要有勇气面对充满无限可能性的未来。学会自律吧！只有通过自律，完全地牢牢地控制住自己，才能克服现实的痛苦，产生修订心灵地图的勇气，逐步成长。
Next, it is the most important hold to. Although can bring temporary anguish, but do not lose heart please, sunshine always is after harships, believe oneself can defeat chrysalis Cheng Die one day eventually. Teacher of no less than often says what listen to us is same: It is not difficult to abandon, but it is certain to hold to very cruel.
然后，是最重要的坚持。尽管会带来暂时的痛苦，但是请别灰心，阳光总在风雨后，相信自己终有一天会破茧成蝶。正如老师常常说给我们听的一样：放弃不难，但坚持一定很酷。
Finally, “ what? Still have one situation? Perhaps you can think ” so. Fasten insecurity, one survival is long, do free deep breathing, adjust the attitude that continues to advance well next, must not forget in busy decay process beside serious person. Encounter is better oneself while, pull the hand that tightens them, memory removes former dribs and drabs, is why a kind of wonderful happiness?
最后，“什么？还有一步？”也许你会这么想。别紧张，一生还长，做一次自由的深呼吸，然后好好调整继续前进的姿态，忙碌的蜕变过程中千万别忘了身边重要的人。邂逅更好的自己的同时，牵紧他们的手，回忆起从前的点点滴滴，又何尝不是一种美妙的幸福呢？
Be brave in to edit oneself interior map! Taking the advantage of us young, one survival has very long way to need ourselves to go. Unripe, if Xia Huazhi is gorgeous,be about.
勇于修订自己的心灵地图吧！趁着咱们正年轻，一生还有很长的路需要我们自己走。生，就要如夏花之绚烂。(文/亭廷)