Recently, I read a book, the title is " openly certainly " . This book is the United States brief? Nielsen writes. After I and my parents reads this book together have feeling greatly.
最近，我读了一本书，书名是《正面管教》。这本书是美国的简？尼尔森写的。我和我的父母一起读完这本书之后都深有感触。
" openly certainly " be how to go from psychological mood respect of the child originally the book of certainly child. This book has 12 paragraphic, what I like most is an article the first paragraphic, because the first paragraphic the technique that used contrast, eat breakfast at ordinary times from us the means method that this the simplest thing will come depict a different family to teach the child. In severe family, because do not eat breakfast,the child is met and by domestic swat, cause the state of mind with child self-abased termagancy easily; In arrogant and wilful family, the child wants to eat what to eat, and they feel to keep directing others so only, will satisfy their requirement, just can highlight oneself to be in domestic importance, make the child becomes a selfish and proud complexion with respect to education as a child; Finally, in openly certainly family, the child does not eat breakfast but the parent can not go punish he, the consequence that can let him because him choice brings,be experienced only writes a composition, let him himself realize an error, the parent taught the child to value the child's option namely so, also let the child realize, what oneself do a choice to also can have insufficient place occasionally. This story showed adult and child with vivid example between the distinction of 3 kinds of interactive means, and the effect from openly certainly is how effective.
《正面管教》是一本如何从孩子的心理情绪方面去管教孩子的书。这本书有12个章节，我最喜欢的是文章的第一章节，因为第一章节运用了对比的手法，从我们平时吃早饭这个最简单的事情来描绘出不同家庭教育孩子的方式方法。在严厉的家庭中，孩子会因为不吃早饭而被家长打，容易造成孩子暴躁自卑的心态；在骄纵的家庭中，孩子想吃什么就吃什么，而且他们觉得只有这样不停指挥别人，来满足他们的需求，才会突出自己在家庭的重要性，使得孩子从小就培养成一个自私傲慢的脾性；最后，在正面管教型家庭中，孩子不吃早饭但是家长并不会去责罚他，只会让他体会因为自己的选择所带来的后果作文，让他自己去意识到错误，家长这样教育孩子即尊重了孩子的选择权，也让孩子意识到，自己所做选择有时候也会有不足之处。这个故事以生动的事例说明了大人与孩子之间三种互动方式的区别，以及从正面管教的效果是多么的有效。
The author still says: Child of the honor that only the parent safeguarded the child, esteem and when the manner is adamantine. The child just can understand, their bad behavior, not only cannot get what what oneself hope in that way, still meet oneself bring harm. This meeting goes encouraging them to change them behaviour below the condition that carries proper pride. Here I also have the same feeling, have child backside parent only encourage the wrong place that just can realise oneself with the help, next the child just can extract from germ oneself bad mistake.
作者还说：只有家长维护了孩子的尊严、尊重孩子并且态度坚定不移时。孩子才会明白，他们的不良行为，不但得不到自己所希望的那样，还会给自己带来伤害。这会去鼓励他们在保持自尊心的情况下改变自己的行为。在这里我也有同感，只有孩子背后家长的鼓励与帮助才会认识到自己的错误所在，然后孩子才会从根源拔去自己的坏毛病。
This book although I had been not read, but the mistake that I had realized to I have love to get angry at ordinary times, if have me,can let oneself learn to control hard later, exercise restraint. If be no good,help with respect to what can seek authority.
这本书我虽然还没有读完，但我已经意识到自己平时就有爱发脾气的毛病，以后如果有我会努力让自己学会控制、克制。如果不行就会寻求大家的帮助。(文/李承昊)