" with Ren Weiguang, conduct oneself in society peacefully "
《以仁为光，处世安然》
In Confucius heart, benevolence what be? The path of Ren Shizhong excuse me, it is to be used at the code of conduct with general affairs concerning between processing person and person. The “ in Confucianism benevolence ” , those who say is a bit commonner it is exalted, the morality that gentleman place should have. Its core is the fine that Sweetheart “ ”—— hopes people builds a kind of coadjutant each other to love good person border concerns, pass at the same time self-denying answer ceremony achieves cultivate one's morality to raise a gender. Chiliad comes, benevolence the culture gene that had become China young man and woman. So in modern society, is gene of this kind of culture necessary to develop the behavior standard that should scrupulously abide by for everybody?
在孔子心中，仁是什么？仁是忠恕之道，是用于处理人与人之间关系与事务的行为准则。儒家思想中的“仁”，说的通俗一点就是高尚的、君子所应该拥有的道德。它的核心是“爱人”——希望人们营造一种互助互爱的良好人际关系，同时通过克己复礼达到修身养性。千年来，仁已经成为了中华儿女的文化基因。那么在现代社会，这种文化基因有必要发展为大家应该恪守的行为规范吗？
My answer is negative. Alleged conduct is normative, the social behavior place that is individual or collective restrains a condition obediently. Understandable what can do for a person, what cannot do, what should do, what should do. In using Confucianism benevolence make behavior standard, too slashing rather to modern. For instance, to parental “ a few expostulate with, see sign not from, respect again do not violate ” , those who let do children is straight breathe out “ I am too difficult! ”
我的答案是否定的。所谓行为规范，是个人或集体的社会行为所服从的约束条件。可以理解为一个人能做什么，不能做什么，应该做什么，不应该做什么。用儒家思想中的仁做行为规范，对现代人未免太苛刻。比如，对父母“几谏，见志不从，又敬不违”，让做子女的直呼“我太难了！”
But “ benevolence ” also is twinkling Confucianism person people mature and gentle ray. “ heartless person, not OK long place about, cannot happy with good qualities ” , confucius con says: There is Ren De's person in the heart, cannot be in the environment that is restrained by poor institute for a long time in. Because be like him to be stranded for deficient place, to change oneself life current situation, pawn of his benefit word, benevolence heart a kind tie he is cast completely go beyond the highest heavens, his what thing dare work, this call “ blame ” . This kind of person also cannot live the life of easy and comfortable enjoyment for a long time. Because he is happy place to confuse, the live a luxury and dissipation life with this average dream blindfolded his double eye, he enjoys be used to, want to satisfy oneself greater desire, he also is what thing dare work. The heartless in these two kinds of place person, selfish desire masked his morality, be shaken by place of outside bad situation. So benevolence person? Benevolence person benevolence the belief that should make a heart and belief. Belief is a kind of adamantine idea, and the motivation that belief is behavior, also be a kind of viewpoint of value. Benevolence person because there is “ in the heart benevolence ” makes the definite view, what doing is “ does not even more quadrature ” , be not changed by environment place.
但是“仁”也闪烁着儒士们成熟而平和的光芒。“不仁者，不可以久处约，不可以长处乐”，孔子从反面说：心中没有仁德的人，不能长久地处于被贫困所约束的环境里。因为若他为贫所困，为了改变自己的生活现状，他利字当头，仁德一类的约束他全抛去九霄云外，他什么事都敢干，这就叫“为非”。这种人也不能长久地过安逸享乐的生活。因为他为乐所迷，这梦一般的纸醉金迷蒙住了他的双眼，他享受惯了，想满足自己更大的欲望，他也是什么事都敢干。这两种处境中的不仁者，私欲掩盖了他的道德，被外界坏境所动摇。那么仁者呢？仁者把仁当做内心的信念与信仰。信念是一种坚定不移的想法，而信仰是行为的动力，也是一种价值观。仁者因为心中有“仁”作主心骨，做什么都是“不逾矩”，不被外界所改变。
So, I feel rather benevolence as a kind of inflexible behavior standard, still be inferior to benevolence the belief that should make a heart and belief. Such, even if we cannot come true completely, can hold to little to be stood by to its mental kernel however.
所以，我觉得与其把仁作为一种刻板的行为规范，还不如把仁当做内心的信念与信仰。这样，哪怕我们不能完全实现，却会坚持一点点向它的精神内核靠近。
For instance, everybody is met more or less in the life evil to his heart repugn because of characteristic of the behavior habit of certain person, disposition. As time passes, the affection that probable change is this kind of nauseous short-term sentiment to last for a long time. The meeting life to us produces such feeling the object communication that we often can reject —— of a few influences to be fed up with with us, do not think even with its coexist one room. This is the consequence that after detesting affection to arise, causes, however is impulse of this kind of affection right? “ only benevolence person can good person, can evil person ” , because there is a “ in our heart benevolence the staff guage of ” , so we just can love truly or hate a person. We judge “ benevolence when ” and “ heartless ” , not be the judgement that makes ” of ego of a “ to thing or person with his likes and dislikes, use “ however benevolence ” this objective, the staff with accepted society will evaluate them, whether did the natural judgement that examine oneself at the same time with this staff guage appear understanding and affection deviation. After such doing, we just can have a juster attitude to thing and person.
比如，每个人在生活中都或多或少会因为某些人的行为习惯、性格特点而对他心生厌恶。久而久之，这种厌恶的短期情绪很可能转变为长期持续的情感。这样的情感会对我们的生活产生一些影响——我们经常会拒绝与我们讨厌的对象交流，甚至不想与其共处一室。这是厌恶情感产生后所导致的后果，然而这种情感冲动是对的吗？“唯仁者能好人，能恶人”，因为我们心中有一把“仁”的标尺，所以我们才会真正地喜爱或厌恶人。我们判断“仁”与“不仁”时，并不是以自己的好恶对事物或人做一个“自我”的判断，而是用“仁”这把客观的、社会公认的标尺来评价他们，同时用这把标尺来审视自己的本能判断是否出现了认识和情感偏差。这样做以后，我们才能对事物和人有一个比较公正的态度。
The “ that advocates to Confucius nevertheless benevolence for ” , light is justice of the fairness on the manner is afraid not quite enough still.
不过对于孔子崇尚的“仁”来说，光是态度上公平公正恐怕还不太够。
If we can then benevolence as belief, we will stay in “ to love not just benevolence person, detest the level of heartless ” , our meeting “ sees virtuous Sai Qiyan, see not virtuous and inside self-communion also ” . See benevolence person, learn a composition Xi Jixian heart; The person that see heartless, ego thinks over. Such, it is us no matter loving to return is aversion, be our promotion self-discipline help strength. We from benevolence person over there acquire drive, from heartless person over there gain experience. This changes feeling of the motivation for a kind of behavior and behavior draw lessons from.
如果我们能进而把仁作为信念，我们就将不仅仅停留在“喜爱仁者，厌恶不仁”的层面，我们会“见贤思齐焉，见不贤而内自省也”。见仁者，便学作文习其贤德；见不仁者，便自我反思。这样，不论是我们喜爱还是讨厌的人，都是我们提升自我修养的助力。我们从仁者那里获得激励，从不仁者那里获得经验。这就把情感转化为了一种行为的动力和行为的借鉴。
Be like again, we benevolence as belief, we can be willing to learn Yu Ren of “ careless annals more, without evil also the popular feeling of ” loves fairly greatly. We can try to include those our place are evil, the hope is passed penitentiary or Jiaohua brings his a “ road ” .
再若，我们把仁作为信仰，我们会更愿意学习“苟志于仁矣，无恶也”的人心大公之爱。我们会试着包容那些我们所恶的，希望通过感化或教化将其引回“正途”。
Major person may feel, evil to place, offend do not rise hide, eye of “ of it may be said disappears, the heart is not irritated ” , this also is a kind of true disposition, also count a kind of pretty good means of settlement.
大部分人可能觉得，对于所恶，惹不起躲得起，可谓“眼不见，心不烦”，这倒也是一种真性情，也算作一种不错的解决方法。
But I feel total to rely on to hide to solve a problem indeed however, expend time to expend energy again already, still be inferior to just be being faced just greatly. With a kind of gentle manner to him (people) the view that expresses you, try to come with utterance and action penitentiary he (people) . This admittedly very difficult, but when my “ loath him ” after period of time, I discover, the former “ detest ” in my heart is already shallow like that.
但我却着实觉得总靠躲来解决问题，既费时间又费精力，还不如大大方方地面对。用一种平和的态度向他（们）表达你的看法，试着用言语和行动来感化他（们）。这固然很难，但当我“勉强”自己一段时间后，我发现，我心中原先的“深恶痛绝”早已浅然。
I can be in with him (people) communication and in interacting, the true opinion —— that understood their heart has a few people the heart is very actually kind-hearted also just, “ 3 view ” very, but they won't talk because of “ however ”“ conversation is offensive the inadequacy that ”“ looks proud ”“ to feel he looks down on others ” to because human truck capacity and expression communicate skill,be waited a moment, give others a kind of uncomfortable sense. Time grows, parts of these National People's Congress were ignored by alienation. because interact with the person rarely, their human truck capacity and expression communicate skill not close all the time, generated vicious circle then.
我会在与他（们）的交流与互动中，了解了他们内心的真实想法——有一些人其实内心也很善良正直，“三观”很正，但是他们却因为“不会说话”“说话难听”“看上去傲慢”“感觉他看不起别人”等等由于人际交往能力和表达沟通技巧的不足，给别人一种不舒适的感觉。时间一长，这些人大部分就被疏远忽视了。正因为很少与人交往，他们的人际交往能力和表达沟通技巧便一直生疏，接着就产生了恶性循环。
After realizing this, I am put to their misunderstanding at the outset for me already have a few regret, the place that is these people again feels one is anxious. The clear up with the “ evil very natural ” in the heart.
当意识到这一点后，我既为我当初对他们的误解存有一些歉意，又为这些人的处境感到一丝担忧。心中的“恶”很自然的消解了。
Still have a few people, they like to object this object that (common calls “ bar essence ” ) , like to publish verbal and extreme comment to ” of all “ current affairs, those who like to see others is lively.
还有一些人，他们喜欢反对这个反对那个（俗称“杠精”），喜欢对一切“时事”发表言语偏激的议论，喜欢看别人的热闹。
I understood their state of mind when chat, no more than is the ” of thinking of “ critically sex that —— thinks project oneself, like to object so (its complication is: Do not listen, do not admit, the notion that does not accept others and opinion) ; The deepness of ”“ of “ independent thought that wants to show oneself ponders over ” ability, the accident when liking to borrow so expresses comment, think the world puts night alone, the bird was not forced in grove; Want to pursue an amusing, like to see others so they object lively …… because of this “ project oneself ”“ is denounced glad and sneer at of ” small how much to break to “ is mixed and differ of ” of friendship of ”“ pure kind big! This let me feel a “ regrettablly ” . I although not approve of their behavior, but however because of this regrettablly, the “ evil ” in the heart also was put down. After that, replace, it is regretful.
我在聊天时理解了他们的心态，无非是——想表现自己的“批判性思维”，所以喜欢反对（其并发症是：不听、不承认、不接受别人的观点和意见）；想展现自己的“独立思维”“深度思考”能力，所以喜欢借时事发表议论，认为世界独存黑暗，林子里没有一只好鸟；想图个好玩儿，所以喜欢看别人热闹……他们因这“表现自己而反对”“讨个高兴而嘲讽”的小失了多少“和而不同”“纯善友谊”的大！这让我感到了一丝“可惜”。我虽不赞同他们的行为，但却因这份可惜，心中的“恶”也便放下了。而后，取而代之的，是一番遗憾。
Because “ benevolence ” should do belief and belief, we just sincerely, honestly somewhat evil, but also because benevolence, we can hope he (people) can become better below his joint efforts, is not simple will show our morality is exalted with disdain, this “ evil ” became “ not to have evil ”—— likely this also can count a kind of simple mercy.
因为把“仁”当做信念和信仰，我们才真心地、客观公正地有所恶，但也因为仁，我们会希望他（们）能在你我他的共同努力下变得更好，而不是简单地用鄙弃来显示我们道德高尚，这份“恶”便有可能成了“无恶”——这也可以算作一种朴素的慈悲。
Young ruffian of the place in the heart, put down, oneself mood follows naturally also fine rise. The feeling that those disgust was changed before feel relieved with include, state of mind also follows gentle, mood also expanded accordingly.
心中所恶少了、放下了，自己的心情也自然跟着晴朗起来。之前那些厌恶的情感化成了释然与包容，心态也就跟着平和了，心境也就跟着扩大了。
So I say, we are big can “ benevolence ” is put in the heart to do belief and belief.
所以我说，我们大可以把“仁”放在心里做信念和信仰。
Worldly all living creatures, 1000 appearance 100 condition; Heart benevolence is in, can install leisurely.
世间众生，千姿百态；心仁处之，从容可安。(文/曾添)