Smoked time to read this book recently, of Long Yingtai, comprehend very deep, the communication of the child and parents is very important. Exceeding need understands person and world. In resembling a book, mention, “ slowly, more and more do not know the other side, “ understanding ” is very important.
最近抽时间看了本书，龙应台的，感悟很深，孩子和父母的交流很重要。人与人间极度需要理解。就像书中提到，“慢慢的，越来越不认识对方了，“认识”很重要。
A lot of parents are in the child's adolescence, can complain only, complain children are traitorous, not obedient, a little strong even parents will be evil language photograph to, say “ is disobedient child ” . Actually, all things are bilateral face, the child has admittedly some traitorous, but doesn't parents have a fault? Have, have of course, but cannot the child criticise like parents the child criticises parents is not in that way? We want ” of “ filial piety, that can express dissatisfaction only with that means, appeared then the “ traitorous ” in parental mouth.
很多父母在孩子的青春期，只会抱怨，抱怨孩子们叛逆，不听话，甚至有些强势的父母会恶语相向，说“不孝子”。其实， 所有事情都是双方面的，孩子固然有些叛逆，但父母难道没有错吗？有，当然有，但孩子不能像父母指责孩子那样指责父母不是吗？我们要“孝”，那就只能用自己的方式来表达不满了，于是出现了父母口中的“叛逆”。
A lot of parents never had sought an account on him body, blindly feel oneself acknowledge is correct, it is right to the view of all things, reason is the Midouduo that the salt that “ has eaten has eaten than children ” , the society is seasoned. There are oneself acknowledge and understanding when child age is small, so overall is accepted. After be brought up, have an idea, once with parents the opinion of the composition produces conflict, parents got angry with respect to this, the vivid “ that often hangs mouth edge I am good for you ah wing of ” , “ became hard, dare bunt ”“ in one's childhood so obedient, longer jump over not obedient ” . Reckon every child has heard similar word.
很多父母从没在自己身上找过原因，一味的觉得自己的认知是正确的，对一切事物的看法都是对的，理由就是“吃过的盐比孩子们吃过的米都多”，社会经验丰富。孩子年龄小的时候没有自己的认知与理解，所以全盘接受。长大后，有思想了，一旦与父母作文的意见发生冲突，父母就该生气了，经常挂嘴边的活“我是为你好啊”、“翅膀硬了，敢顶撞了”“小时候那么听话，越长越不听话了”。估计每个孩子都听过类似的话。
As parents, also need to search from oneself seek an issue? Are all oneself idea right? Are oneself all is those who think good to us be true we want? Of course, the child is small, when the thought is immature, parents is to be able to make a few decisions, but I feel a lot of things need to discuss after children are grown, need to hear the child's opinion! The popularity on the net passes a word before (basically be between the lover) : I just want to eat a banana, you buy one car apple to give me however! I feel same between parents and child to suit.
身为父母，是不是也需要从自己上找找问题？自己的所有想法都是对的吗？自己所有认为的对我们好是真的我们想要的吗？当然，孩子小，思想不成熟的时候，父母是可以做一些决定，但孩子们长大之后我觉得很多事情需要商量，需要听听孩子的意见！之前网上流行过一句话（主要在恋人之间）：我只是想吃一根香蕉，你却买一车苹果给我！我觉得在父母与孩子间同样适合。
So, if often be communicated, avoid possibly to appear this kind of problem, parents should take out time and child communication, know child what does the child want, ability walks into each other world quite. Of course, the child also should understand parents, the fine of clear parents suffers from the intention!
所以，如果经常沟通的话，就可能避免出现这类问题，父母要拿出时间与孩子交流，知道子孩子想要什么，才能够走进彼此的世界。当然，孩子也要理解父母，明白父母的良苦用心！
Here, pay the blessing of mother's day!
在此，致以母亲节的祝福！(文/刘亚茹)